The Shopping Spirit Never Dies

I love smelling good. And I don’t mean just by spraying perfume. I’m referring to the ‘whole.’

 Have you ever walked past a lady and turned around to look at her because of an alluring scent which just captivates you? How about a business associates who entices your senses as she stood beside you making that presentation? Nothing beats being asked: I love that scent of you, what are you using?

 Unless you’re too lazy, an attractive scent will bring you through the day with zest and releases feel-good endorphins in you that you never expect. You’ll walk with more confidence, you know your deal is halfway there when you give that million dollar smile, you may even notice an increase of attention. 

 Most of my friends love scents on them. They  smell good from head to toe, and it feel so refreshing to be with these girls or boys, rather than someone who perspires non-stop and worst, smell ‘awful’ urrggghh.. it’s so off….

 Having said so, please do not start spraying perfume from head to toe, this doesn’t work baby. The trick here is layering…yes, you layer scent after scent….preferably from the same range. Start with shower gel, followed by lotion and if there is, some powder and the finale, the perfume (by now you only need a few drops to do the trick). You’ll be surprised how long and how far the scent can bring you …

 One suggestion, you should have more than one range of scent to bring you to different occasions or even to bed, you’ll see wonders as how it makes your sexually enticing to your partner. Coco Chanel doesn’t wear No. 5 to bed for no reason J

Have fun !

Something I did yesterday upset one of my buddies, neatless to say, she is very mad. I am too. And she called me ‘stupid’ saying this is the only word she can use on me.

 If she still can’t see how upset I feel, the comment she just made make me feel even worst. I apologized numerous times and even admitted my action is ‘silly’ but being called a ‘stupid’ (in a serious tonality) is not something easy to swallow.

 I wonder how far can being ‘close’ go? Am sure you don’t mind your buddy telling you “hey, your new haircut sucks, please don’t go back to this stylist” or “I don’t think this dress suit you” kinda remarks, it may even go as far as “ I think you need to change your attitude” or “You are wrong! Reflect on yourself please.”  That’s what buddies are for, isn’t it? You want ‘real’ remarks…not ‘PR’ comments…

 Still “You are so STUPID” stabbed right through my heart if vs something lighter like “You are so silly” I would have felt so much better.

 What else can I say except more apologies.

Have you ever felt lonely before? Despite having a partner to cuddle at night even though he/she just had garlic bread or opening your eyes early in the morning when you’re overwhelmed by a strong gust of early morning ‘breath’ as your partner greets you with a cheerful Good Morning?!

I said ‘lonely’ because sometimes you just want to get away from the ‘routine’ stuffs and do something exciting in-between your stagnant time-table. Do not feel bad as this is normal. What’s wrong with having a little fantasy?

My circle of bitching queens just can’t stop going googoo gaga over men or boys (ya, boys) we met. Don’t misunderstand, I’m not saying you have to engage in “extra-curriculum activities”, sometimes a little bitching on your favourite topic is healthy (your body will release the ‘feel-good’ endorphins). Don’t go overboard la (but then we’re all adults already) *wink wink*

Can you imagine your life if there’s no such excitement? Frankly, it doesn’t hurt if you know what you’re doing, and a little affection/crash is not going to hurt anyone! C’mon la, don’t tell me you’re not ‘admiring’ anyone else…I am sure in everybody’s heart, there’s sure this someone who will set your heart race the moment he/she walk past….

Hello!! How’s everybody doing?! Couple of days ago one of my bitching kaki ‘gently’ reminded me to update my blog. Since when I have a fan J

Not that I didn’t want to update, there are too many issues to handle during this period (dengue, shifting, renovation, planning where to travel, career switch etc) and have no time to bitch here. There are times when I feel like sharing some thoughts but just couldn’t find the ‘strength’ to turn on the PC (yes, I’ve been lying on bed A LOT lately) let alone typing the thoughts down. zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Many big changes in my life during this period, thanks to dengue I slimmed down (finally!) but got big again (shitty situation). I shifted house and am very pleased with it, my sales is good (as at 1^st half of the year) and now, a career switch is in the mind. I have only one more ‘task’ to do and 2 more targets to achieve, oh ya,  I’VE NOT BEEN TO EUROPE, PARIS!

One of my girlfriends will be going to Europe this Autumn. I envy her because she’s embarking on a journey I’ve been planning secretly (open secret, I mean) for years, which is, traveling alone.

My plan was postponed twice, when I was 30 years old, and 35. I’m hitting 36 this year.

There’s always something stopping me from going, from financial reason to family to work, I’ve never been able to make my trip. Looking back, there’re several trips which I made without planning. I literally just ‘drop & go’ when the ‘desire’ arises, or more realistically, whenever I managed to grab a good offer.  After all, isn’t this my style? PLAN FIRST THEN SAY LA…..

So, what do you think? Heck la, I shall grab the next promotion ticket for europe!

Paris, here I come…

Bonjour….

I must say I did, no, am doing quite a good job. NO shopping, NO buying magazines, NO much entertainment, NO spending unnecessary $, all for the sake of fulfulling a few of my wishes.

Initally I thought my life will be bored, how to survive with no shopping? And I am shocked that I actually survive the lure, though tons of products were screaming at me, I'll just take one look and that's it, not thinking about it at all after that, didnt even have to do the FSD (personal reference) anymore.

But I dont think I can give in to my love for Japanese Language. I have decided to drop from class this year as my classmates continue to pursue the love of our lives. They filled me with so much fun and I must admit frankly I hate to miss it. I want to be part of it !

Then comes the invite to join salsa with them, they need even numbers and it was me who started 'jio-ing' them years ago! Finally they're going to join YMCA's class! How not to miss?

It is now a war between my Head and my Heart!

Instead of making new resolutions, I reckon it’s better for me to reflect on what I’ve set to achieve in 2006 as planned on 31 Dec 2005, but they never happen :

1)                  Europe by 8^th November 2006

It never takes place, because of my poor financial planning. I did cut down on  shopping (maybe not enough) and movies, my favourite past-time, and did try to cut down on bitching sessions with friends (all the dinner cost!). I even stop buying books (hmm….i think I bought a few comics though) and also stop buying tabloids (stood in kinokuniya to read instead) but still don’t know why I didn’t save enough. Ah! I know! I didn’t do enough sales! But I’m in top 100 (if nothing goes wrong)! Sigh…..whatever la, in short : NO MONEY

      2)         Family Vacation
                  Didn’t happen either. Only reason : NO MONEY

3)         Lose Weight / Live Healthily
            Nope, I still sleep past 6am, jog less than 10times in the entire year, had fried
            food for dinner past 9pm.
            My weight has ballooned to 56kg at one stage (even NOW, I think I’m at 55),
            with the love handles getting thicker and more visible, a far cry from my
            ‘fittest’ year in 2004 with 50kg and a slender body.   

4)            Debts Free

To all who knows what it means, I didn’t make it last year. I must admit that I didn’t even try hard enough. Ahh ! I think this is the reason why my vacation didn’t happen.

      5)         Wiser In Financial Planning
                   My plan to record daily spendings stop in mid February, that diary never see
                   daylight again.

Do I still want to make resolutions for year 2007? What if I felt like a loser again on Dec 31^st 07? Will I stay disciplined and focus for my goals? At 35 (hitting 36 in another 11months time), I’ve lead first half of my life and assuming I’ve another 35years left to go, I definitely have not much time to waste. See how time flies.

I want to do it, I want to take all my resolutions seriously and make it happen. For the first half of my life, I live in mini-luxuries, fulfilling my own vanity and fun is all I’m looking for. An age older is one year wiser, I want to live my next half of my life differently, with clearer goals and no time to waste, not forgetting adding zest into it.

Will keep you updated on my happenings for 2007, till then, HAPPY 2007 !

Cheers!

I  made my mind to 'quit' shopping for a year, for some personal reasons and also hope to re-mould myself to a better and more responsible person. Knowing myself better than anybody, I know I cant do this alone but need constant reminders from close friends who will pull me back to the right track (i always side track unknowingly la) and I made a secret promise to myself and to my friends, with the following No-No list :

1)      Hard-core shopping

2)      Unnecessary shopping

3)      Impulsive shopping

4)      Anyhow shopping

5)      Must-go-home-with-something shopping

Easier to say than done, knowing how undetermined I am (in everything I do), I chose to step away from malls, lunch and dinner dates are fixed at places my car can be parked just outside or at least the lift nearby will bring me DIRECTLY to the restaurant, no walking through of malls! Supermarket shopping is kept to a minimum unless necessary (I NEED the calbee prawn crackers to tide me through this difficult period). I only started bracing the challenge since, I think, somewhere in November (when did I start NOT buying things?) though I've been talking about it since a year ago. Don’t fret! I finally get onto doing it!

With Christmas round the corner, you can imagine how hard it is to stay focus on this no-no rule. Gigantic Christmas sales posters are everywhere (they even appear outside my office lift!!) Christmas paper bags catch my eyes (how can you resist these once-in-a-year limited edition bags?), Christmas caroling are heard everywhere (which somehow attract me towards them and they’re always located just steps outside the mall!) and late night shopping is available in Singapore only during these period (other than GSS)! Urrrgggghhhhh… I hate not being part of this, finally, last night, I took my first step towards a mall, Tampines Mall (let’s start with a small one first), anyway, I need to buy a few more Christmas gifts so this to-do task can be deleted from the list. Never did I know that this is also a trip to discover a new me J

I played a little game, it’s called the FSD game which translates to: Feel, Stroke, Drop.

Feel it, Stroke it, imagine I own it and then Drop it. Hey, I did it! Not once, not twice, not thrice but more than that! I went into Mango, saw the most beautiful jacket I’ve ever come across, I FSD and walked out, went to Charles & Keith, a few pairs of shoes caught my eyes, I also did the FSD thingy and walked out, and I did it again at Watsons, Times the Bookshop, Music Junction and G2000. I’m amazed at how good I felt after I went home with only things I really need (those Christmas gifts la)….

I'm looking forward to see a new me :)

I need an organizer badly and there's only 3 weeks left for me to hunt for the ideal one.  I want something not too fanciful, but not too boring, a little bit of cartoon here and there would be perfect.  With my failing memory, I need one with one month's calendar on 2 pages so once I open it, I know what's in this month. 

Tons of blank pages for taking notes is essential. I need to jot down all clients details so no more excuses of "i forgot to refer to my file when I reach home" or "the clients' details are in the notebook inside my car."

Of course I saw some which meet my requirements, but they're either too big/small/expensive or not pretty. Oh ya, did I mention it has to be cute?

A diary reflects one's personality. It shows whether you're serious, boring, fun, cute or artistic. Think corporate diary and hello kitty, you know what I'm trying to say?

I think the problem with me, who till now still cannot chose the perfect diary (which is totally unbelievable), is because I still dont know what I want, or, how I want to portray myself to friends and clients :(

One of my best friends is 7 years older than her boyfriend, and though I do not know if this relationship will blossom in the future, they've been together happily for 5 years.

A boy 10years my junior asked if we can try dating. That was 1 year ago.

Then last year, a friend of mine who is 4 years younger than me told me he is ready to leave his family for me the moment I nod my head. I cut the friendship off straightaway.

Dating a man younger than me makes me feel insecure, they may be attracted to the cheery me now as to how babies are attracted to new toys but after a while, I'm almost certain that they'll go after ‘girls' who wanna have fun (just like them), rather than dating an old aunty who prefers to read or watch dvd at home.

Seeing my best friend now going crazy over a young boy, I started to wonder, is age just a number? Or it's all in the state of mind?